Is our agony aunt column on MayMay. We launched this column in the early days of MMNB and periodically feature issues sent in by MMNB readers.
We hope the MMNB family can offer insightful advice.
A woman has begged relationship expert, Deidre to help her out of a predicament as she has been sneaking out to have séx with a co-worker.
I have been having great séx with a younger guy from work. I would like nothing better than to leave my husband for him but he’s married too. My husband and I have been together for 23 years. We met when I was a student of 19. He was 22 and seemed a man of the world. I was bowled over.
I did not realise that what I saw as grown-up and masterful was actually a controlling nature. My job involves liaising with employees in other departments. One guy was particularly attentive. He always noticed what I wore and when I’d had my hair done.
I suppose the attention and flattery went to my head. I found excuses to go and chat with him more often.
We started spending lunch hours together and he soon suggested buying a sandwich and going to a hotel instead. That is what we started to do every single Monday and Friday.
I could not believe how exciting and satisfying séx could be. I don’t think it was ever like that with my husband. I love my husband in a way but I am not in love with him. He has always been such a jealous man. I am not allowed to go out with girlfriends or visit my family as often as I would like.
It is important to me to have a good sex life and a life of my own, rather than just doing what my husband wants. I am 44 now and our two sons are grown up. One is living with his girlfriend and the other one is in the Army.
My new man is 29 and married with a daughter of three. We have tried to stop seeing one another but we always go back on our decision after a week or two.
I am prepared to walk away from my marriage with nothing and my lover is prepared to walk away from his if I will — so why do I hesitate?